up too late, no sleep in sight
i’ve just teared up for the second time in a few hours. the first was because i watched the bucket list, and aside from the point the movie was trying to make, i couldn’t help but be moved by ray’s wife. it shows in the movie that theirs was a love that had fallen into ruin over the course of years. yet when he came home finally, she lit up like a young girl. she was ready to put on her sexy lingerie and make love to her husband…only to have him collapse on the floor and then die days later. my heart wrenched for her as she came out of the bathroom glowing. and saw her husband’s twitching legs on the other side of the bed. to see her smile change to absolute agony was really…affecting. she’s a secondary character in the film, and i felt like her story was tragic and painful.
i teared up again tonight talking to an old friend. i’ve known him since 2006 — we were in poland together. he told me the story of how his girlfriend and he got together. it’s a beautiful story — they met four years ago and had a summer romance and never forgot about each other. she found his number last november, and now they’re together, although they live three hours apart. that’s not what made me teary though…sweet as it is.
karsten told me that i am strong. he was the second person this late night to say that to me, and it kind of got to me. today was a surreal day. got up, was going to go to the arboretum, ended up doing paperwork for tfa and then going to see star trek…in the midst of the hum drum, i got a friend request on my second facebook account from an unwelcome source — a source i blocked on my normal account months and months ago — and a package of very odd easter trinkets from my dad, from whom i’ve barely heard in months. he called me literally about 20 minutes after i got picked up at the airport last week here. add to that a couple other slightly odd (but not bad) happenings and a bout of my chronic insomnia, and i was feeling a little less than strong. karsten went on to say that he’s always thought i was a very strong person. maybe i am, but i don’t feel like it.
a lot of the time i’m confused. i don’t know what is expected of me. i tend to be so blunt and candid that i forget that most people aren’t used to that. there are all these nuances of human interaction that escape me. i feel unsure of myself and nervous about how i’m perceived. and i hate that something so arbitrary as a facebook friend request can send my heart into flutters and tie my stomach into knots. i hate that i get nervous and a bit tongue-tied and shy. there is so much to my personality that a lot of people never get to know because i’m afraid to let it show. it’s stupid. i’ve come out of my shell a lot, and i really like myself, but even when i feel strong, i never think of others seeing me that way. not sure why that is.
so i teared up at that. karsten told me that he thinks it’s amazing that i live my life and do what i need to do, wherever it takes me. i always figure that people just see me as flighty. i spend so much time trying to…i guess offer up what i have to give and wanting so much to share myself that i think i’m afraid it falls by the wayside. not so much that it goes unnoticed but that it goes noticed and unwanted. it’s almost five a.m., and i’m really not sure what i’m trying to say here.
i guess that…after an odd sort of day…watching a new day dawn from my own bed, i feel strangely hopeful. maybe there’s hope for me after all. so many things in my life right now seem to be falling into place. some neatly with virtually no effort, others that will take work. right now, at this moment, i feel like every one of them is worth the effort. so i’ll keep moving forward and see where i end up — with teach for america, with washington dc, with people. everything right now is the product of months of striving, toil, wondering, planning, hoping, working, and waiting. and i’ll see it all through to the best of my ability. maybe that’s strength. if it is, i’ll take it.
Posted on 22 May, 2009, in meanderings, snapshots life and tagged confusion, friendship, honesty, hope, insomnia, love, night, restless, strength, thoughts, truth, work. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.